Why I Prefer The Term Self-Date vs Solo-Date

Call taking yourself on a date what you will, but here’s why you’re reading Self-Date Era instead of Solo-Date Era

Solo-date vs self-date. While choosing the name of this newsletter/project/revolution I went back and forth between the two options. Partly because I overthink everything, but also because I think the self-date is the most important piece of self-care you can undertake and I wanted to give it the weight and importance it deserves. 

Solo = alone. I love being alone and having alone time, and while I don’t believe that alone means being lonely, many people do. And yes, part of taking yourself on a date is being alone with yourself. That’s part of the appeal. But dating yourself shouldn’t feel lonely, it should feel like reconnecting with yourself. 

Self = identity. When you spend time alone doing things you love and being present with yourself, you learn more about who you are, what you need, and what you need to focus on to 

By turning inward and focusing on yourself, you give yourself the spotlight and remind yourself how important you are. Also, self-date sounds more active, taking yourself on a date says that you have agency and you’re not afraid to use it. Self means you stand with yourself and stand up for yourself. 

But if you prefer the term solo date, call it that! Dating yourself is an insanely personal experience and no one else should have a say in how you spend your you time. As long as you’re dedicating time to your relationship with yourself, it’s all good! 

What do you prefer to call self-dating? Leave me a comment or email me, spinsterlifepodcast@gmail.com and let me know.  

The Self-Date Era chat is suspended this week. I’m not a fan of Substack’s chat feature and I’m exploring new options to host discussions. A Facebook Group? A Slack Channel? Something else? All thoughts welcome. 

ICYMI - This Week on The Spinster Life

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I also released an informative and sometimes enraging new episode of the podcast. I interviewed Michele Wispelway, founder of FemGevity about the cliff of 35 and all the myths we’ve been told about women’s value. Listen here.